Did I become a short order cook? Hosting & Dietary Needs

If you have kids - or have ever been in the vicinity of my two lovelies - you know what the concept of "short order cook" is to a caregiver.  But, what about hosting a group of people when some of them - or, God forbid, all of them - has a "special need".  In my realm alone this is what's going on... I don't eat meat, one child has a life threatening nut allergy, a niece has a severe allergy to carrots and celery (I told her it was too bad the allergy wasn't to lima beans, but I digress), my sister-in-law is gluten-free, 3 of the 4 in my house only drink soy milk, my uncle hates all veggies.

We will all drink water and eat rice. Happy Holidays!

So, what do we do?  How do we cater to everyone's needs? Well, we don't.  We simply can't. 

But, there are a few things you should do.  If you are having a new group over, ask if there are any special dietary needs.  If you are able to meet some needs, go for it.  Don't stress yourself about everyone's issue though.  I would also say that there is a hierarchy of needs to consider - some are more important than others.

If there is a need that threatens someone's life - severe food allergy - take that to heart.  Don't set out a bowl of mixed nuts if your cousin's child is allergic.  Don't make peanut brittle ice cream for dessert.  Read labels.  Is it a pain? Yes.  I live it every day.  However, this is a safety issue.  The people allergic will also feel so grateful that you care about them and want to help keep everyone safe.  (And really, you wouldn't put a loaded gun on the table.  Don't put a giant bowl of strawberries out if little Lucy could go in to anaphylaxis.  Not to be a Debbie Downer, but food allergies can - and do - kill.)  For tips about preparing your home for someone with food allergies, CLICK HERE!   

If someone makes the life choice not to eat certain things to be healthy or due to palette - good for them!  Embrace what makes you unique.  But, this can't be catered to constantly.  And don't feel bad about that.  If you invited me to dinner, I would not expect a special vegetarian meal.  I'm just thrilled I don't have to cook and you want to spend time with me!  People will eat what they want and fill in the blanks later if need be.  I frequently will eat a protein before attending a party if I'm not sure my needs will be met.  If I show up and the host has a Boca Burger ready to grill for me - I'm thrilled.  Impressed really, and honored that someone cares enough about me to do that.  But, so I expect that? Absolutely not.  (Also, don't be offended if someone brings their own veggie patty to your cook out.  It's okay.) 

If you stocked up on cola and grandma will only drink root beer? Oh well.  There's a tap with water.  It'll have to do.

Happy Hosting!  LP